These final two scenarios are long and tied up together, so I’m making them a separate post to the first one. It’s not just because I like extra hits on my blog, I swear
Nice Guy Scenario 3; Douchebag. Not a very original nickname, granted, but I find it appropriate. And in this situation, more than in any of the others, I should have known better. I really really should have. But that’s ok, live and learn, onwards and upwards, blah blah etc etc.
I’m not a positive person. I am a smiley, bubbly, mostly cheerful person. I’m also a total stresshead with no patience and very low tolerance for getting treated like crap.
The thing is, if I’m telling a story, or venting, or trying to get something off my chest, and your response is ‘try to see the positive side’, or ‘be a glass half full person’ or anything along those lines, you are Missing The Point.
I KNOW what the positives are. If I’ve had one bad day at work, I’m still aware of all the good things about my job. If we’re coming up with a list of reasons to stay vs reasons to leave, awesome. But if I just need to vent, your positivity does not help. It’s frustrating, annoying and makes me want to punch you in the head.
This has come up a number of times recently, mostly with boys. I can’t stand it. And if you really do go through life only looking at positive things, I cannot even begin to imagine how you get anything done. Or how you don’t just walk around in constant disappointment all day. At least when I walk into a situation, I’m aware of the good and the bad, and I’m not focusing on either. Just weighing it all up to see what’s going on.
So, positive people? Just stop please.
Same with anyone who says ‘agree to disagree’. Do not want to hear that anymore either.
Can we talk about this question for a minute? How often do you hear this in an effort to encourage others to act against an outrage? Or to explain why they acted?
Shouldn’t it be enough that it’s a human being? Do you really need an actual blood connection to someone to care when bad things are happening to them?
I see this all the time and it’s a major pet peeve. It also happens when news outlets report on major disasters, at least in Australia. We always get told exactly how many Australians were impacted, with less focus on the total number of humans affected, because obviously it’s more important to know how many people from your country were affected, and never mind those pesky foreigners.
And hey, no one messes with the women in *my* family. If it happens to someone else well, that’s their problem isn’t it? Women? Not so important. One of my women? That’s just not cricket, sport.
Anyone else notice this and get annoyed, or is it just my sleep deprived brain looking for an argument?
Friendship with men has been on my mind a lot lately. It seems to crop up in almost every conversation or blog reading session I do. So I figured it was time to address it here. In a ‘get all my feelings on paper (metaphorically) and then move on’ kind of way.
There’s a few different aspects to this but the main one that gets me annoyed is the idea that if you get turned down for a date, you should feel free to befriend the person who turned you down and essentially stalk them for as long as it takes to get that damn date. This is a bad philosophy. It’s one that gets rammed down our throats in almost every romantic movie, tv show etc. It rarely works out and in most cases, when depicted by Hollywood, it’s stalking. That’s not cute. It’s not romantic. It’s stalking. Stop it, Hollywood, you’re destroying social interaction for everyone.
You can do a feminist reading of a text without being a woman.
It is 100% possibly to read a text from a feminist lens without possesing a vagina. There is no need to follow up the comment “very good feminist reading [male name]” with “I am woman, hear me roar”.
I don’t care if you’re joking, you’re an idiot and it wasn’t funny.
Using some sort of rip off of the slowed down action scene first exhibited in the Matrix is crap.
Don’t do it anymore. Ever. For any reason whatsoever.
I will not watch your movie if you do this. It means you have no original thoughts and don’t know how to write a comedy. Spoofing something that has been done to death is not funny or original. stop it.
(Inspired by an ad for that ridiculous zohan movie)
OK everyone please pay attention, I don’t like repeating myself.
Using ANY variation of the phrase ‘it is a truth universally acknowledged’ is not witty, unique, smart or funny. It is in fact an overused, tired cliche.
Please stop it.