yeah I’ve seen the debate happen around the blogosphere, although I’ve never joined in.
I’ve never seen a mainstream newspaper admit that it’s sexist though. Mostly the newspapers (here at the very least), are conservative and right wing and don’t believe anything is sexist. Except when it’s “reverse sexism”
In terms of being a vegetarian/vegan and a feminist? I see no conflict there at all, although I know there have been big debates about it.
And I agree with your point about abuse. I just don’t think that’s the message being conveyed with these campaigns.