Europe

April 15, 2009 at 9:55 pm (personal)

I’m going again! 😀

My annual leave was approved today, an hour later my tickets were booked.  My sister and her husband are currently on a nine month perspective shifting world trip, and I will be meeting up with them for Oktoberfest in Munich.  I can’t wait.  Also hoping to meet up with a friend in Spain/Gib.*  Am currently tossing up between doing Amsterdam, Austria, France, Venice or extra time exploring Spain.

Any suggestions?

and to all the readers who don’t particularly care about my personal life, apologies for the interruption in venting.  Just had to share my good news 😀

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*By the way, you need to check the messages I left for you about this!

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Blogroll

April 14, 2009 at 11:27 pm (Uncategorized)

I’ve done some major renovations on my blogroll list.  Incidentally, if any of you know why my right column has decided to hide at the bottom of the page and not the side, please let me know.  I can’t fix it with the knowledge I have because WordPress does not allow for much fiddling.

If you’ve linked to me on your site, please let me know and I’ll add your blog too.  I haven’t left you out on purpose or because I’m horrible, just because I’m busy and stressed and overlook things sometimes.

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April 14, 2009 at 10:04 pm (cliches, feminism, Giant Babies, idiots, Nigel, personal)

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Nice Guy Syndrome

April 14, 2009 at 2:03 pm (arsehats, feminism, Giant Babies, male privilege, men hate you)

Since I started this blog I’ve been meaning to do a post on this.  I know of at least a few readers who don’t know what this is and could do with some education on the matter (because it’s important.).  However, due to my horrible procrastinating I haven’t gotten around to it.  And now, someone else has posted awesomely and I’m just going to link to it to save myself repeating everything they’ve said.

Go Here.

I’m serious, go read it.  It also ties in nicely with my post, Friend or Stalker.  Of which I will have an update on very shortly.  When I have more than two minutes left of blogging time!

hat tip to Hoyden About Town.

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Time to Get Angry

April 14, 2009 at 1:43 pm (abuse, arsehats, bullying, feminism, men hate you, Rapists)

Want to know why I’m so damn bitter world?

Go here.  If, after reading that, you still need to ask why I’m bitter, don’t bother talking to me anymore because you will never Get It and I don’t have time to explain it.

In the words of Lauredhel *** trigger warnings for Werribee gang-rape ***

Seriously I can’t add anything to this.  I’m too damn furious.

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T-Shirts That Prove Men Hate You: Part 1

April 13, 2009 at 12:24 am (feminism, Giant Babies, idiots, male privilege, men hate you, T-Shirts That Prove Men Hate You)

We’ve all seen them.  Everywhere.  Those tops that are omg so funny!  Well, they would be if feminists had a sense of humor, right?  Sick of seeing them everywhere and having to endure the eyerolling of my friends when we do, so a new series for WhyI’mBitter.

T-Shirts That Prove Men Hate You

Part 1 will feature the top that sparked the idea when I saw it at the Easter Show last night.

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Sexual Harrasment… It’s Everywhere.

April 13, 2009 at 12:01 am (arsehats, bullying, feminism, idiots, men hate you, personal)

Just in case it was possible for me to go even one hour without remembering that Men Hate Me, my dad decided to help out.

I was at my parent’s house today for Easter, and to get my desktop fixed.  The following conversation occurred:

Mum: Oh look, the girl on TV is bubbly and bouncy with three computers!  It’s just like [whyimbitter]

Me:  No one describes me that way so it’s not actually.

Dad: What do they describe you as then?  Big boobed?

My uncle, mum, me:  Only once.

Dad: Why only once? What do you to them?

Uncle: It’s hard to repeat yourself with a mouth full of broken teeth

Dad: (laughing cause he’s oh so hilarious) Do you just smother them with your boobs?

Aunt: She’s not as big as [cousin’s best friend]

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I’m so friggin sick off being reduced to my body parts at every single chance anyone gets.  And I’m not yet a big enough blog to get trolls, but if any are reading this and tell me it was a joke and I should lighten up, you will be attacked with troll spray.  It’s not a joke, it’s not funny, we do not need to lighten up.  This shit is poisoning everyone associated with it.  Anyone who says it, laughs at it, remains silent in the face of it, is the victim of it, or hears about it is immediately poisoned.  And to face this from ones own parents?  Utter crap.

I have no idea how I turned out the way I have, but I’m so freaking glad I managed to wake up and make it through without being trapped in the kind of mindset that makes shit like that acceptable.  It’s not.  From anyone.  In any setting.

Incidentally, Happy Chocolate Eating Long Weekend everyone.  If your family is anywhere near as horrible as my dad, my sympathies.  If not, my eternal jealousy.

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Weight Issues

April 6, 2009 at 5:37 pm (bullying, feminism, idiots, male privilege)

I have them. Like most women in the patriarchy, I believe I have some very big flaws with my appearance.  There’s a few reasons I don’t have a photo up on this blog, and my own insecurities definitely play a part in that.

However, I fight as hard as I possibly can to ignore all the voices in my head telling me why/how I’m not good enough.  It’s just that sometimes these inside voices manifest on the outside.  Some examples:

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The Eleventh Down Under Feminists’ Carnival

April 6, 2009 at 9:22 am (Down Under Feminists Carnival, feminism, racism, Rapists)

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It’s finally up! I hope you all enjoyed the free frozen margarita’s yesterday, but just a word of warning – you may need to continue with an alcohol buzz whilst reading this.  Lots of anger making stuff to follow.

POLITICS
In case you were under the impression you’re valued for your mind or success as a woman, Deborah presents an Important memo for women of substance and achievement and Melanie McFarlane presents Guest post by Melanie Macfarlane: When I Grow Up: Taking Career Advice from the TV at Larvatus Prodeo both posted at Larvatus Prodeo. Carol looks at homophobia as a way to keep successful women politicians down in The Hand Mirror: Guest post: We’re all lesbians now: undermining powerful women posted at The Hand Mirror, while over at Hoyden About Town, Lauredhel dissects the misogyny in a speech by Colin Barnett in Fish-wives, Mr Premier?

VIOLENCE AND RAPE

Deborah draws the line very nicely between consent and not consent in On rape and consent at In a strange land. If only this were compulsory reading for everyone.  Blue milk takes on the unenviable task of looking at Bettina Arndt’s stinking pile of shit regarding sex and marriage in Re-post: Sex to save the family at blue milk as does Richie in Bettina Arndt full of shit; Bear-Pope remains Catholic and opposed to use of portable lavatories at Crimitism.   Tigtog has an in depth post on Rape myths, rape myth acceptance, and community perceptions of victims of sexual violence and Lauredhel has one about a specific case, “My daughter keeps asking if the naughty man is in jail” … and he’s not at Hoyden About Town.

MEDIA

Rachel Hills tackles media representations of body image in A naked woman walks into a bar… and Cosmo asks the patrons to list everything that’s wrong with her body. posted at Musings of an inappropriate woman and Helen looks at a different kind of image in The writer and the cartoonist posted at Blogger on the Cast Iron Balcony. Rachel Hills also presents a critique of an Ask Sam post in Could you go a month without casual sex? and a nostalgic look at her love of the “outrageous ones” in Loving Courtney Loveat Musings of an inappropriate woman.

FAMILY AND WORK

Spilt Milk has a thoughtful post about feminism and motherhood, Feminist mothers, at Spilt Milk . Blue milk has a post on why it’s so important to fight for paid maternity leave, We must not walk away from this fight and one on daring to want to work whilst pregnant, without dealing with sexist comments from misogynistic shits in Pregnancy as public property at blue milk. Lauredhel looks at the different consequences of getting pregnant for different classes in Some women are afraid of being mummy-tracked; others are afraid of being fired posted at Hoyden About Town and mscate discusses breastfeeding at work in Bothersome babies and breast feeding at The Dawn Chorus. At Musings of an inappropriate woman Rachel Hills posts about a Mia Freedman article in The New Young Domestic Goddess: is happiness found in a rolling pin?

LANGUAGE

Blue milk reviews ‘my little red book’ and examines her experiences while she’s at it in There is always a story in your ‘first’ posted at blue milk.

HEALTH AND DISABILITY

Unlike the mainstream media, Lauredhel presents an informed take on alcohol intake and breastfeeding in Alcohol and Breastfeeding: NHMRC buys into abstinence-only messaging and takes on “infamous psychiatrist Simon Wessely” in CFS/ME and “faulty illness beliefs”: The incredible hubris of the psychiatro-patriarchal complex at Hoyden About Town. The ex-expat examines the difficulties with being different in our patriarchal society in Daring to be different posted at The Hand Mirror.

REPRODUCTIVE JUSTICE

Looking Glass Alice tells us why she’s sick of birthing choices being questioned in Looking glass Alice examines birthand parenting in our culture. – Why Freebirth? Aren’t you a little tired of being asked? posted at Looking Glass Alice and Rebekka looks at two events on the “alternative to a doctor when birthing” front in First time for everything posted at Bek’s blog. Lauredhel dissects the data on baby fat and finds nothing to panic about in More confected fat-baby epidemic panic? The “increasing trend” that isn’t. at Hoyden About Town whilst Jule’s post The Hand Mirror: “A mad abortion debate” by Dr Margaret Sparrow counters some anti-abortionist arguments at The Hand Mirror. Nikki just wanted a night out without the shit head comments in What is this? 1950? posted at Tales of the Red Headed Devil Child

GENERAL FEMINISM

Kitsuchi discusses the mythical existence of a female musician in No women on stage, please… at Much Better Sundays and Audrey is pissed off (you should be too!) about the depiction of a netball captain in Blatantly shit posted at AUDREY AND THE BAD APPLES. Fuckpoliteness adds to her Wall of Awesome in And the Martha Gellhorn Wall of Awesome evolves posted at Fuck Politeness. Another great International Women’s Day post is up over at Hoyden About Town by Helen, International Women’s day: On being the Groke and Podblack has a post the vatican’s thoughts on this day, I Was Liberated By A Washing Machine And Yet Excommunicated For Standing Up For My Child’s Rights posted at PodBlack Cat. stargazer struggles with the choice between being right and being happy in The Hand Mirror: rights or wrongs posted at The Hand Mirror. Rachel Hills presents an excerpt from Kathleen Bogle’s book inEveryone hates a slut, but no one knows what one is and explains why Why we’re not that into He’s Just Not That Into You at Musings of an inappropriate woman.  Chally faces difficult questions and decisions in Contextual activism posted at Zero at the Bone.

OTHER

Made in Melbourne celebrated International Women’s Day with The women I love posted at madeinmelbourne.
Anne Else has a piece up about stripping and stag nights, Back to school, at Elsewoman whilst rayedish works through her religious journey thus far in That’s me in the corner losing my religion posted at The Radical Radish. Kakariki has a new finished tapestry piece to celebrate all the unloved and unappreciated women’s work in our op shops and to ask some questions about land and raise some funds for the Lex Wotton support fund in Oh Sorry, was that your land? posted at Radical Cross Stitch. Rachel Hills presents Not all articles about “hooking up” have to be patronising and alarmist. and also explains why, for her, the personal is political in Sex and relationships: not just silly “women’s business” at Musings of an inappropriate woman and Jo Tamar unpacks sentiments regarding Scholarships and support for indigenous students at Wallaby

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And that’s it!  Lots of good reads in there to keep you busy until the twelfth edition planned for 5th May, hosted by Chally at Zero At The Bone.  Submissions to chally.zeroatthebone at gmail dot com for those who can’t access blogcarnival.  And don’t forget to consider hosting a carnival yourself whilst continuing to submit!

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Down Under Feminist Carnival…

April 5, 2009 at 9:54 pm (Uncategorized)

Is coming! I promise! I’ve been delayed at this point, but it will be up asap. And I’m sorry for the delay. Very very sorry.

Free frozen margarita’s for everyone stuck waiting.

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